News & Advice

Good News! It looks like LB may still qualify for Head Start! They base eligibility on last year’s taxes, and I didn’t start my new job until January, so I still fall within the Po’ White trash guidelines. That means no moving her to the more expensive, but closer ( literally, downstairs) daycare. No filing another modification of Child Support.

Oh the luck!

I also got an email from one of my mom’s friends, who also happens to be a single mom. She raised her daughter from a very early age, and apparently read my post at Rocky Mountain Moms Blog. Since there’s been so much discussion about single moms dating lately, I thought I’d post her opinion on the subject, after living single motherhood for more than 30 years:

 Being a dating, single mom is tricky, but not so hard.  I strongly suggest what I did.  I kept the guys away from my daughter.  They knew about her, but they were not exposed to her.  I was out to have a good time.  Not find a daddy.  However, if I found someone that I really enjoyed, and the feeling was mutual, and I was hopeful, then they could meet her because I was not going to spend a lot of time without my girl.  They had to be worthy, and they had to be good with kids.  Or that was it. 

I really hear her on “having a good time” vs. “finding a daddy”. This is the argument that I keep trying to make. That single moms CAN have a sex life, an adult life, and that life doesn’t affect or hurt their child in any way.  The question is, can we bring this philosophy to the next level?

2-Week notice

I’m in 2-week notice limbo. After the initial panic, my boss gathered her wits and asked me to write a list of everything I do on a daily basis, so she can see what type of person she wants to hire. Little did she know, the school district was not planning on hiring a replacement for me.

Did I mention that I’m an assistant to two other people as well as my “official” boss? Yeah, funny how that just happens when you are nice to people, and work within a physical proximity of their office. My job really is split almost 50/50 between two different departments now, and I’ve acquired a huge workload in the process.

Unfortunately, the school district’s budget is already in the red. They might as well send me a card saying “Thanks for donating your salary to our deficit! Happy Trails!” Not that my puny salary would put much of a dent in the thousands of dollars they are in debt, but I’m sure the Finance Department is eager to cover their asses with every little penny. My boss is thanking them with a big ole’ F*** U.

So they are attempting to “re-distribute” my workload across the entire department, and since everyone is walking on eggshells with the economy, nobody is going to complain about taking on extra work. They’re just thankful they have a job, while working under a new superintendent who has big ideas about changing how we run our district. I’d the say the mood in administration can be described as……meth-head paranoid tense.

No one is throwing eggs at me for leaving, even if it means they are going to be hella stressed with more work. I’ve received more hugs this week (amazing how fast gossip travels!) and lots of statements of “I’m going to miss you so much!” Since I’m on the outs, co-workers have no inhibitions about telling me what they really think of the school district. I’ve learned more about my boss and the director of the HR Department than I honestly wanted to know. I don’t have any many bad feelings about my almost 2-years here. I want to leave with a positive spin, not snarling “good riddance” over my shoulder as I walk out the door.

Most people tell me that they are happy for me, and if they were in my position, they would do the exact same thing. They tell me not to worry about my boss and the responsibilities I’m leaving for them to pick up. So, right now I’m trying to help them as much as possible, by writing out step by step instructions to all the programs I use, the location of all the files I guard, the phone numbers and databases I currently administer and basically anything else I can think of.

The biggest thing my boss and co-workers are upset about? Not being able to see my daughter on a regular basis anymore.

Of course.

4 Tens

Since school is out as of May 22nd, we 12-month employees have two options for the summer:

A) Continue to work regular schedule.

 B) Work Monday-Thursday, 10 hour shifts.

Exsqueeze me? Get a whole extra day with LB? Take 3-day camping trip weekends? WORD.

If I work from 7:30 am till 5:30 pm without taking a lunch break, then I might be able to swing it. Daycare technically closes at 5 pm, but I know they give exceptions for us hard-working, trying-to-better-ourselves, single moms. MANNN that’s a long time for LB to be at daycare, but would it be a trade-off for an entire mommy-filled Friday?

I’m still debating. Maybe I can recruit some Leo Aunties to spend an hour or two a week with their neice while I plug away at the computer. Hmm hmm? Oh btw, JL, we should totally recruit Jiji to design an ad for the Nook so I can put it on my blog. Sound good?