Court Results

 Yay we actually saw the Judge! He, being the incredibly awesome man that he is, listened to both our sides of the story and made some good decisions. Rooferman obviously had nothing prepared other than “I’m a good father, and I work ALL the time, so therefore its not my fault I don’t see my daughter.”

The Judge looked directly at him and said “You have other kids?”

Rooferman actually said yes! I almost screamed, “Your Honor, they are NOT his biological children!” It was ridiculous. Rooferman told the Judge he had to “sneak” out to his parent’s house to see his daughter. He told the judge he needed overnights because that would be “actual quality time” with LB. What kind of parenting can you do while the kid is asleep?

Anyway, I told the Judge I have never withheld parenting time, and that Rooferman averaged 1.3 visits to see his daughter per month, all by his own choice. I asked the Judge to require Rooferman to take Love & Logic parenting classes at the family center. I asked him to hold off on overnights until regular parenting time had been established. I asked him to order mediation, since I haven been so unsuccessful in getting Rooferman to show up.

I got everything I wanted. He got nothing he wanted. We go back to court December 18th. Lets see if Rooferman “miraculously” gets his act together now that I have a Judge backing me up.

Blondie tried to get him out of the parenting class by whispering “Parent/Teacher conference that night” in his ear. The Judge looked at him and said “You really need to focus on LB right now.”


Even though this is just the beginning, I feel like I’ve moved mountains already. I feel pretty damn good.

Your happy thoughts gave me strength. I got through it. I don’t know why I underestimated myself so much.

Lawyerdude and delight

Court was pretty uneventful yesterday. There were a total of 3 people in the room: Me, the judge and the lawyer who has taken me under his wing. Both the Petitioner and Respondent had to call into the courtroom, so there were two people on speakerphone the entire time. Very weird. If I were a judge, that would kind of piss me off, but this judge is very smart and good at his job.

*An interesting side note: This is also the judge who sent Rooferman to prison way back when.

The case was completely different than mine, and the hearing was only 15 minutes long, so I didn’t really learn much that would apply to my case. However, Lawyerdude showed me the layout of the court, where I would stand, how the judge would address me, and how I needed to present myself. GOOD STUFF, since I am basically going into this with no court experience whatsoever.

Hopefully, I can keep going back to the courthouse as much as possible. Luckily I can just walk over there from my office, check the docket and take my lunch break during one of the scheduled hearings. I’m still waiting to see if I qualify for the fee waiver, but Lawyerdude said he was doubtful that I would get it. *Sigh*

I have an appointment with Human Services on Monday to see if I can get child care assistance. With my rent going up, gas and food going up, pretty much everything going up, its become pretty clear I’m not going to be able to afford daycare without receiving child support. Keep your fingers crossed that I get approved.

LB’s sentences keep getting longer. Its shocking when “My computer broken, Mommy. Need go shopping and get batteries” comes out of her mouth. My simple baby-like responses no longer satisfy her. I have to give full-on explanations when she has a question about something. Its scary. I’m finding myself stumbling over answers. I’m not used to my toddler putting me on the spot, demanding more complicated verbiage. Now I’m the one trying to catch up.

Its scary, but at the same time, utterly awesome and completely thrilling. I don’t get to use the word “delightful” enough in life. Thank God I have my daughter 🙂