More from Head Start

I sent another email this morning to the big wigs at Head Start. Once again there was no one in my daughter’s classroom at 7:30. Once again I had to wait, and once again I was late to work. I emailed the Head Start director, describing how since the dismissal of Spot, there hasn’t been a teacher who consistently shows up on time, and if this starts to negatively affect my job, they would be hearing from my employer (who totally supports me and has already offered to call and complain).

I told them they could fix this problem by returning him to his former position.

Her response:

it is time for you to understand that (Spot)’s current employment status with Tri-County Head Start is no longer an option.  He is not eligible for re-hire. 


 If the policies and procedures of our agency do not suit your family needs, you are certainly under no obligation to continue your child’s enrollment in one of our centers. 

In other words, if you don’t like it, go f*** yourself.

I responded to the email of course. She told me that she couldn’t believe this is such a big issue since she had only heard complaints from one other person. If you would like to respectfully change that number, please email her at the following address:


For more on this story:

Zero Tolerance AWOL Policy

What happened to Spot. 


Maybe I’m on some kind of post-court success high, but I’m not giving up yet.


I received an email from the Head Start HR department:

While we all appreciate the distress over losing a good teacher, the policy our organization has had for many years regarding an “AWOL” situation is one we have held very firmly to. One way to be a voice for change is to join the Policy Council as your center’s representative. This is a parent board that focuses on staff, the policies that affect how they work and who we hire. I encourage you to please fill out the community complaint form as well.

So it looks like I am joining the Policy Council. Even though my daughter may only have another year at Head Start (if I don’t withdraw her before then), and  I may never get Spot rehired, I feel like I have to do something. I’m also getting on the Agenda to bring this up at the center’s parent meeting next month.

If I nothing else, I am going to ask the parents to use the remaining funds in our account for a stipend for Spot. If they don’t go for that, I will suggest a goodbye gift for him. I fund-raised for our center, so part of that money came from my direct effort. I hope the other parents will back me up.

I also turned in my complaint yesterday with a letter describing the effect this decision had on the kids, parents and employees at the daycare. Attached to that was a numbered list of reasons why their “Zero Tolerance Policy” hurts their organization.

Ugh. Can I add Political Activist to my resume yet? I guess its just part of being a parent.

P.S. LB’s cough is definitely better today 🙂

P.P.S. If you would like to email the HR Director and let her know your opinion on this issue, or your personal experience with losing a good teacher, please do so at

The Knocked Up Effect

Examiner  Logo So, I thought I wasn’t going to get this gig due to my being 500+ miles away from Denver, but apparently, they can list any Colorado-based Examiner under Denver. So now I will be writing ANOTHER blog, on top of this one and this one.

I also submitted my formal complaint to Head Start this week. I talked to Spot’s girlfriend, and she said that parents were calling him in tears over what happened, so I think I’m going to start calling parents and getting them to write letters, or sign a petition I can submit. I also emailed the director of Head Start, who I met through my previous job. Maybe something will come out of this, maybe not. Maybe I will have to go in front of the board of directors. Who knows, I’m not scared.

For the first time in history, LB started crying when I left her at daycare today. The entire drive, she kept asking me, “Is Spot back? Is Spot back?” I don’t know how I can explain this to a 2-year-old. Its just wrong.

The weekend was nice; felt like spring,  though I too depressed to do much. I did laundry, sat on the couch and ate leftover KFC for breakfast. Watching America’s Next Top Model reruns in my state of mind was stupid. It took me all day to pick out something to wear I didn’t feel fat in. Stupid TV. Stupid KFC.

For an intriguing article I plan to discuss on the Examiner, click here. Apparently, they are calling my breed of single motherhood the “Knocked Up” effect.


P.S. my new post at RMMB is up too:  


You all remember “Spot” right?

Click here to or Here  refresh your memory.

Its kind of a running joke between us, the whole “Spot” thing. He actually signs her daily sheets with “Spot” instead of his real name. He’s been LB’s teacher at her daycare for almost a year now. She runs to hug him in the morning. Every week he shows me pictures and tells me funny stories about her. She talks about him on the weekend. Monday is her favorite day because she goes back to see him. Did I mention he’s really cute and I have a minor crush on his uncanny nurturing manliness?

He was fired today. “Spot” is gone.

I’m so upset on so many levels, I don’t know how to express it.

I made an utter fool of myself, sobbing on the phone to the Head Start Central office, asking them how they can justify firing someone who has never been late once in their entire career, except for this one day when his alarm didn’t go off? I blubbered that I’m a single mom and my daughter doesn’t have a lot of positive male role models, so this man was extremely important to her, let alone the rest of the kids.

They flatly told me that they have  a zero tolerance policy on “AWOL” employees. I told them I’m filing a complaint with the Board to have that policy changed and “Spot” reinstated.

I know I don’t need more stress in my life, but this is just WRONG. I have to do something. My daughter is losing a very important person in her life. “Spot’s” losing a job he loves.  Its making me sick and angry, but mostly, sad. Very sad.

News & Advice

Good News! It looks like LB may still qualify for Head Start! They base eligibility on last year’s taxes, and I didn’t start my new job until January, so I still fall within the Po’ White trash guidelines. That means no moving her to the more expensive, but closer ( literally, downstairs) daycare. No filing another modification of Child Support.

Oh the luck!

I also got an email from one of my mom’s friends, who also happens to be a single mom. She raised her daughter from a very early age, and apparently read my post at Rocky Mountain Moms Blog. Since there’s been so much discussion about single moms dating lately, I thought I’d post her opinion on the subject, after living single motherhood for more than 30 years:

 Being a dating, single mom is tricky, but not so hard.  I strongly suggest what I did.  I kept the guys away from my daughter.  They knew about her, but they were not exposed to her.  I was out to have a good time.  Not find a daddy.  However, if I found someone that I really enjoyed, and the feeling was mutual, and I was hopeful, then they could meet her because I was not going to spend a lot of time without my girl.  They had to be worthy, and they had to be good with kids.  Or that was it. 

I really hear her on “having a good time” vs. “finding a daddy”. This is the argument that I keep trying to make. That single moms CAN have a sex life, an adult life, and that life doesn’t affect or hurt their child in any way.  The question is, can we bring this philosophy to the next level?