child support, custody, deadbeat dad, single mom

Respect. Guilt. Sympathy

LB's first night with her dad went ok. At least she came home safe and sound, so I'm grateful for that.  She was dirty, tired and thirsty, and it looked like a cat scratched her, but otherwise ok. Rooferman informed me on Saturday that the court is filing a default on him for lack of Child… Continue reading Respect. Guilt. Sympathy

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Documenting vs. Badmouthing

Meeting again with Rooferman tonight. Its amazing how different I feel going into it this time. I would say that I'm looking forward to it a tiny bit, but I don't want to jinx myself. That "I'm going to Disneyland" song was playing on the radio this morning. I got a little emotional high listening… Continue reading Documenting vs. Badmouthing

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My mother picked up LB from Roofie's house last night. Since she is a big, scary feminist, they were as polite as can be to her. Thank God they have taken down their McCain/Palin Sign, or else a fight may have ensued. "Sorry the house is a mess, but we're moving," Roofie said to my… Continue reading Moving

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Sick of this

Roofie called my lawyer yesterday, stating that he's tried numerous times to meet with me but I've refused. Lawyerdude said "I don't believe that, but if you two can work this out, I think that's best for everyone." I feel like my teeth are being pulled out one by one, and just when I've managed… Continue reading Sick of this

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Single mom dreams

I've been taking Tylenol PM at night so I can endure the Strep Throat and get some rest.  Consequently, my dreams have been kooky. I had this one about 2 days ago, so the details are a little fuzzy: I dreamed something in my house broke, and my landlord called a handyman to fix it.… Continue reading Single mom dreams

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Words of Wisdom

Do not let yourself be bothered with the inconsequential. One only has so much time in this world, so devote it to the work and the people most important to you, to those you love and things that matter. One can waste half a lifetime with people one doesn't really like or doing things when… Continue reading Words of Wisdom

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Clarity stings.

Here's Annie Ortelee's astrological horoscope for today: Friday is a great day for getting things done and out the door. Some of the volatility of the past few days has abated and Venus wants to dispel or discharge the excess energy. She may be feeling a bit tuckered out from all the energy moving through… Continue reading Clarity stings.

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Daycare knows best

I went to pick up LB after work, and noticed that the signature on Tuesday was not Rooferman's. Guess who is now picking up my daughter for her boyfriend? Yeah, Blondie. I pointed out to the daycare employees that she is not on the authorized pick-up list. They informed me that LB's dad had come in… Continue reading Daycare knows best

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“You’ve made your point”

That was the first text message I received from Rooferman. The next one told me to "stay away from his family" and I had "already ruined his Christmas enough already." Unfortunately for him, both of his parents love me dearly and he has no control over our relationship, and (guess what!) we have to deal with each… Continue reading “You’ve made your point”

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Last day of work. I'm using a nice chunk of Annual Leave so I can take 2 weeks off and spend much needed time doing nothing. I'm so lucky to have such amazing people in my life. Today, no less than 5 different co-workers brought gifts for LB and me. I was even presented with… Continue reading Limbo