Yay we actually saw the Judge! He, being the incredibly awesome man that he is, listened to both our sides of the story and made some good decisions. Rooferman obviously had nothing prepared other than “I’m a good father, and I work ALL the time, so therefore its not my fault I don’t see my daughter.”
The Judge looked directly at him and said “You have other kids?”
Rooferman actually said yes! I almost screamed, “Your Honor, they are NOT his biological children!” It was ridiculous. Rooferman told the Judge he had to “sneak” out to his parent’s house to see his daughter. He told the judge he needed overnights because that would be “actual quality time” with LB. What kind of parenting can you do while the kid is asleep?
Anyway, I told the Judge I have never withheld parenting time, and that Rooferman averaged 1.3 visits to see his daughter per month, all by his own choice. I asked the Judge to require Rooferman to take Love & Logic parenting classes at the family center. I asked him to hold off on overnights until regular parenting time had been established. I asked him to order mediation, since I haven been so unsuccessful in getting Rooferman to show up.
I got everything I wanted. He got nothing he wanted. We go back to court December 18th. Lets see if Rooferman “miraculously” gets his act together now that I have a Judge backing me up.
Blondie tried to get him out of the parenting class by whispering “Parent/Teacher conference that night” in his ear. The Judge looked at him and said “You really need to focus on LB right now.”
Even though this is just the beginning, I feel like I’ve moved mountains already. I feel pretty damn good.
Your happy thoughts gave me strength. I got through it. I don’t know why I underestimated myself so much.