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Mediation Monster

November 3, 2008

Halloween was fun. LB was surrounded by adoring grandparents, aunties and friends as we hiked for miles around the freezing cold neighborhood. As was to be expected, she was hopped up on candy until about 9:30, when she passed out in the car on the way home. Then the demon revealed itself when I tried to get her into bed. It was a good time, and it made me realize how many amazing people I have to love my daughter and support me.

Rooferman drama was not fun. Saturday, I sent him a certified letter letting him know that I had consulted a mediator and that we could meet with him about our parenting plan on Tuesday before court (since this was obviously what the court wanted). He called and left a very angry message saying I should have consulted him on the date and he wasn’t going to be able to make it. I did NOT call him back, knowing nothing good would come of it. Instead I sent him a text message asking him if 6:00 pm would be better than 5:30.

He then proceeded to send me a flurry of enraged, hateful text messages, telling me to “cut the s***” and “stop playing kids’ games” and “I will see you back in court.” He even went so far as to say that “He has a family” and he couldn’t change his plans for that night.  I told him his daughter is his family too.

Now I just need to figure out how to print text messages from my cell phone before Wednesday. The nice man who agreed to mediate us (he’s also a family counselor) told me to come anyway and if Rooferman doesn’t show, he can “focus on me”. Maybe he can tap every meridian point in my body. 

I can’t wait to go back to court.

15 Comments leave one →
  1. November 3, 2008 1:16 pm

    You’re doing great, PH. Just keep breathing.

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  2. November 3, 2008 1:19 pm

    I know I can e-mail text messages from my phone. Maybe you should talk to the people at the wireless store.

    I’m glad you had a fun Halloween.

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  3. November 3, 2008 1:27 pm

    I emailed them to myself, but they don’t have the date or time or anything except the text. I think I will stop by the store because my phone has a USB connection,and maybe I can upload them to my computer. Thanks for rooting for me. I love you all. 🙂

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  4. November 3, 2008 1:55 pm

    What a jerk! Reading this infuriated me!!

    It’ll all work out in your favor. The courts aren’t stupid, they deal with this stuff all the time and what is really going is very clear to them.

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  5. November 3, 2008 2:08 pm

    I really and truly don’t have the words, or rather am choosing not to say them. I agree with April, 100%.

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  6. November 3, 2008 2:43 pm

    I still can’t believe Rooferman. You’re doing awesome girl, we all love you so much!

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  7. November 3, 2008 2:53 pm

    Hang in there! Hopefully your cell phone provider will be able to get those text messages off your phone, if not – take a photo and have them printed at your local drug store. It will show everything!

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  8. November 3, 2008 4:38 pm

    My Verizon Wireless lets me print off a call log from their website…if yours does the same it’ll have the date and time at each entry. Good luck!

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  9. Shiona permalink
    November 3, 2008 6:22 pm

    What an ass! How dare he. He has a family. You should definitely take that quote to court. That would be it for him. Good luck. I know you’ll win over that jerkoff. Maybe you could even get an affidavit from the mediator saying he didn’t show.

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  10. November 3, 2008 6:36 pm

    Good luck. I’m counting down the hours till my mediation on Thursday morning. I’m still holding out hope that he will be reasonable and we can work out all our issues there instead of having to go to court. You’re in my thoughts and prayers…we will get through this!

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  11. laurakim123 permalink
    November 3, 2008 9:30 pm

    I am also super proud!!!! Not responding to his crap is the ONLY way to go!!

    I also agree – go to the mediation even if he doesnt come! Cos if you dont then he will probably pitch!!

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  12. November 3, 2008 9:43 pm

    I hope you were able to get those printed.

    Do you even know what he wants–custody wise–yet?

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  13. November 3, 2008 10:52 pm

    closure is on the horizon. hang in there.

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  14. sunlightgirl permalink
    November 4, 2008 9:09 am

    omg what a piece of siku turd

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  15. QTMama permalink
    November 5, 2008 11:43 am

    *Hugs* for you sweetie. Big ones.

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